A bass player buddy is heavily involved with
United By Music.
A few other local players are mentors in this program too. One of them is blind from birth and plays a LOT of piano/keys. He plays saxophones, drums and harps/harmonicas well enough to lay tracks for his CDs. He can't read music either... so maybe you could find a teacher/coach like him. He would make you hear how harmony works with a single line and tell you why.
In any discipline, there are levels of proficiency in performance and levels of understanding. There a huge stores of information locked in notation. It is hard for me to imagine going through life not being able to read. But I went through some accidents where I had to arrange life where I didn't need to read, drive or work even.
Being able to read notation well enough to understand the circle, key signatures, scales/modes, diatonic chords, cadences, II/Vs, doesn't seem that out of reach. It would unlock a lot of composition and improv knowledge. Being able to read concert scores, sing the parts, or burn through the Charlie Parker Omni-Book in a couple years... seems out of reach however... but what do you want to do or accomplish musically in your life? Are you all of a sudden in a rush to shred the horn??
When I was 11 years old when I first learned the saxophone mechanism. I figured out the 12 diatonic patterns on only knowing and hearing the C and A Minor scale patterns. Same with chromatic, whole tone and pentatonic scales. I for sure knew the finger patterns, before I ever consciously knew the names of all the keys, notes or intervals.
I used to sit in my closet in the dark shedding scales. It made me develop a kind of mental map or matrix of the circle that remains to this day. It's like a frame work to attach all my experience and knowledge on.
My friend showed me how to play simple blues chords, riffs and BB King licks on a 15 buck Stella steel string. I applied all that wrot learning to the horn. In a few months I was doing the same thing on sax that he was doing on guitar... dropping a needle on 45s to rip tunes and solos.
We taught ourselves how to listen and hear. We played in good bands and worked in clubs. It wasn't the symphony or Thad Jones/Mel Lewis Band...
Good luck! Has anybody told you yet that this stuff is not really easy? :mrgreen: