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Hi all.

I've not posted for a while as my wife has been very ill. Sadley, she passed away early in the week after a 5 year battle with cancer. She was only 36.

She was the pluckiest and the sweetest person I have ever met, and she taught me so much about myself. She was my absolute rock.

I made a promise to her as she lay dying that I would find the strength to look after our 3 children and give them the very best of me, from the both of us. It is this promise that keeps me going.

She was extremely ill but kept going because she wanted to make our 10th wedding anniversary blessing and actually shrugged off hospital to make it. It was the happiest day of her life, and mine for that matter.

Only once did she ever say she wanted to give up, and that was right at the end. She earned the right to let go. She was a monumental mother, soulmate and she was my best friend. If you are reading this, please say a prayer for her, that she may finally be in a happier & peaceful place. If you're not the praying type, please play a tune or raise a glass in her memory. I am immensely proud of her.

I'll probably disappear for a while, take stock & spend some quality time with our children, then come back a better person just for having known her.

My very best regards,
Sean

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Hi Russ.

I just had to respond to this. My father passed away two years ago after a long battle with Parkinson's. When he died he was 60 and weighed under 100 lbs (was unable to move or talk the last couple years of his life). Each passing day I ask myself: Would my father be proud of me now if he were still alive? It keeps me motivated to live life the way life should be lived.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm 32 years old now and can't imagine passing at 36. It's simply too young.

I must say that music and the saxophone helped me through those tough times--after a loss of a loved one the tough times never seem to end. My father loved music and he loved hearing me play. These days I happen to be playing better than I ever have and I wish he were alive to hear me now.

My thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself, Russ, and your kids.
 

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I can't imagine your profound sadness. My thoughts are with you and your children.
 

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I am so sorry for you and your children, sorry i can't say anything more than the typical words you would hear from people,

SaxyAcoustician was right,
36 is just too young.

take good care of your kids.
you and your family have my deepest sympathies.

Dan
 

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Sean,
I indeed am not the "praying type," but I said one for you and your family after reading your message. Bless you and your kids - your wife sounds like she was a very special person.

Best regards.
 

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Sean,

There are people all over the world mourning your loss, my heartfelt sympathies to you. I can't imagine the pain you endure and the strength you must possess to pull through this. My best wishes to you and your children, God bless.
 

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My friend, I wish you the courage and strength you will need to carry on after this. Fortunately you have the example of your wife, and your love for her, and you have your children. Godspeed to you all.
 

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Sean . . .

Your beloved Karen is beyond needing our prayers. She is truely in a joyful place, without pain. without regret. My prayers, friend, are for you and your children. May the Lord touch you and give you strength, comfort, and peace. This parting is temporary. Eventually, when your work here is done, you will be together again.

Charlie
 

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Man, that sucks. Good luck with the kids and everything.
 

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Sean, thanks for taking the time to post here. I always feel humbled by people like Karen who are so courageous in the face of such adversity. Be strong for your children and don't forget yourself. When you are ready be sure to come back here.
 

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Sean, please see your PM. Thanks.
 

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Sean,I am sad and sorry for your loss,you love her very much.
 

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Sean,

Truly a sobering story......My heartfelt thoughts are with you and your family. Focus all your energy on your beautiful kids. At this point it's important to support and care for the living.

August 16 is my wedding anniversary too! I read your story with tears welling up in my eyes. We just celebrated number 21. This tragedy really makes it important to be thankful for all we have.

Be steady my friend.

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Hi Sean.

I'm so sorry for your loss. All very best wishes for you and your children at this time.

Giles.
 

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Sean, i have been looking at this post and the replies for hours now.
And i have raised my glass to your lovely wife.

When i was 10 my mother died from cancer at 37. Still all have been good from there on because of my loving and caring father, who also has passed away now.

Sean, there will never be a day when you will not think about her. Keep remembering your children who their mother was and what she meant to you. And give them all your love. They will be fine!

Søren
 
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