Martin,
For theory, as a reference book to keep going back to, Mark Levine's "Jazz Theory Book" is very popular.
Ideally though, you (and I) are aiming at being able to use the info in all these theory books. Rather than just having a mental understanding, we want to be able to hear the ii V7 I progression and have the facility and vocabulary to improvise over it.
(I've got Coltrane playing "Russian Lullaby" in the background as I type this, so I may just give up and sell insurance instead.

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With the goal of actually playing in mind, I'd suggest the following.
"The Goal Note Method." by Shelton Berg.
Gary laid this one on me a while back and it's great. A methodical approach, that drills fundamentals and gets you
playing, as well as understanding the theory. Seemingly simple, but if you do the homework, each chapter can take a long while to get under your fingers in all keys. Great play along tracks too and the etudes are based on blues, rhythm changes and standards.
For ii V7 I lines, you can, of course transcribe as Gary suggested. As well,you can grab some great free stuff from
Tim Price,
http://www.timpricejazz.com/lessons/index.html
or, for very little $
Steve Neff,
http://www.neffmusic.com/cms/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=68&Itemid=88888909
As I keep reminding myself, the main thing is to make haste slowly. Pick a solo, exercise, etude, that contains some nice ii V7 lines and shed it until you've got it down cold. Then shed it for another 6 months until you've got it down to the point where you can actually use it.
It ain't easy, and it feels like work, but at least you don't have to spend the first half hour of each practice session noodling around, wondering what to shed. There's an upside to grunt work.